Last week I wrote about asking for help. If you’re on an adoption journey, or you know someone who is, help yourself to this resource list. I’ve listed below a few of our favorite “helps” that have been valuable to our family from the waiting period all the through to raising adopted kiddos. Enjoy and pass it on! (And add to it by leaving a comment with your best “helps” too!)
1. Adopted for Life: The Priority of Adoption for Christian Families & Churches by Russell Moore
The best book we read while we were waiting to adopt for the first time. An adoptive dad himself, Dr. Moore presents adoption as a response to the gospel– our own adoption as sons and daughters into God’s family. He shows that adoption is not just about couples who want children-or who want more children. It is about an entire culture within evangelicalism, a culture that sees adoption as part of the Great Commission mandate and as a sign of the gospel itself.
Moore writes for couples considering adoption, families who have adopted children, and pastors who wish to encourage adoption.
This book gets into the nitty-gritty of caring for at-risk kids. Immensely helpful for us. This review says it all:
“The Connected Child is the literary equivalent of an airline oxygen mask and instructions: place the mask over your own face first, then over the nose of your child. This book first assists the parent, saying, in effect, ‘Calm down, you’re not the first mom or dad in the world to face this hurdle, breathe deeply, then follow these simple steps.’ The sense of not facing these issues alone — the relief that your child’s behavior is not off the charts — is hugely comforting. Other children have behaved this way; other parents have responded thusly; welcome to the community of therapeutic and joyful adoptive families.” Melissa Fay Greene
3. Created to Connect: A Christian’s Guide to The Connected Child
This free download is available on the Empowered to Connect website, a site full of resources for adoptive families (click here for the home page). This guide is a must for Christian parents who are seeking to implement the principles in The Connected Child. For us, it helped tie together the new concepts we were learning in book, with the principles we already believed from the Bible. (In fact, my husband didn’t read the book and only did this study and still found it very valuable!) Click here for the pdf.
4. Parent-Child Interactive Therapy (PCIT)
This therapy experience has been a game-changer for us as we have had to learn how to best discipline our adoptive and foster kiddos. The therapy fosters a deep relational connection with your child first (child directed interaction), and then shows you how to discipline according to a structured protocol (parent directed interaction). Usually recommended for kids ages 2-7. We contacted our local university and having been doing the therapy through their clinic, but here is the national website for PCIT for general information.
What about you? Got any good adoption resources to share? I’d love to hear about them!
I’m celebrating National Adoption Month here at kitchenstool with a new series:
4 Ways Adoption is Changing Me
Stay tuned for the rest of the posts in this series!
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